Yolandi’s life changes dramatically when she is told, “There is nothing more we can do for you. You have three months to live.” But she has two small daughters and she is not ready to leave them so she refuses to give up. With amazing support from her husband and family, she makes a decision and simply refuses to die. As you read this beautiful story, you get to know a young mother with unfailing faith, a grandmother who takes care of her and prays over her and refuses to be negative, and a father who throws himself into research to find cures that will ensure his children do not lose their mommy. It’s a story about miracles both medical and spiritual and about people who care and believe. You cannot fail to be moved by this amazing story.
How organised are you? Do you plan ahead, take things as they come, or does it depend on the circumstances?
When I was working and raising a family I was flexibly organised. There was a routine at home but if things disrupted this, I would just go with the flow. At work, I was ultra-organised and had lessons prepared well in advance and my marking was always up to date. You have to be organised when teaching small children otherwise there would be no way of handling the chaos that naturally reigns in a classroom!
Now in retirement, I don’t plan ahead too much. Some of our caravanning trips happen with just a day’s notice. I have my lists on the computer and that helps make sure that nothing is forgotten. If we plan a long trip then I usually do the bookings and organise the packing. The Earl plans the route and where we will stop over. He also has his list of things to pack. He is a man with a plan so should anything go wrong he has the tools to deal with it.
How many Christmas presents have you bought already?
I have not bought any Christmas presents yet. Now that our grandchildren are older we don’t do a huge present exchange on Christmas day. Our focus is on doing things together as a family. The ten of us all spend two to three weeks together at our middle daughter’s home, close to a beach in Plettenberg Bay. During our time together we go on one or two special outings instead of spending loads of money on gifts. On Christmas morning we have Secret Santa with each person only being allowed to spend up to R400 on a gift for a person whose name they drew out of a hat.
Do you prefer a family gathering for special occasions, or just you and your significant other?
We only celebrate milestone birthdays and anniversaries. My 70th is coming up and as the family can’t be together at that time of year we had an early celebration. My kids arranged a surprise weekend which was absolutely awesome. I blogged about it here
My Fabulous Family
How many words do you think your pet understands?
I don’t have a pet but the ones I had in the past certainly had an excellent understanding of the English language. I used to take my dog, Tammy running almost every day. She would be fast asleep in another part of the house and I would whisper to my husband, “I am going for a run” and that dog would be up and at my heels before I could get my running shoes on. She also reacted when I spelled the word out. I tried saying, “I’m going to put my takkies on,” but that got her running around barking in excitement. Other words that got her raring to go were beach and walk. She knew other words too, but the ones involving her going out for a run brought a very quick reaction. I would talk to that dog and I am quite sure she understood every word. She was very special.
Tammy was especially good with kids. This little visitor is teaching her to beg
No, I don’t believe we can know everything but some people know more than others. We tend to know more about things that really interest us while other stuff we might find terribly boring or not in the sphere of our mental ability. Of course, some people think they know everything.
Where were people before they were born?
Before I was born, I was a fetus growing into a human being in the womb. Before that I was a little part of Mom and a little part of Dad – I think?
Does the Law of Attraction exist? (Law of Attraction as I understand it) is a school of thought where positive thinking brings about good changes. Some say it’s made them wealthy. Others say it improves their health or their outlook on life)
I think it might. When I was a child I was pretty negative and thought the universe was against me. As I grew older I changed my attitude and although I still had to work at it, things started going well for me. Of course, bad things did happen but facing them with a positive attitude did help me deal with each situation better than I otherwise would have. Maybe it’s not the law of attraction but the way in which I look at life. I have been in situations where people have said, “But how on earth are you coping with this?” My answer has always been – This too will pass – and thankfully it always has.
Do we love ourselves more in the virtual world and less in the real world? If so, why? If nay, why?
I am assuming that the virtual world refers to social media and our presence on it. (I don’t go into any other virtual worlds with avatars etc) I feel the same about myself in both worlds. I share positive things both on and offline. I enjoy sharing my life experiences and love learning about and from others too.
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Are you happy?
Yes, I believe I am happy. I choose to be happy. Sometimes things make me sad and if I can I try to do something about it but if I can’t I still choose to move on and get over it. I believe every emotion is important. We need to be angry, sad, jealous, frustrated, etc from time to time. It is all part of the human condition and spurs us into action. Being too happy can make one complacent and prevent one from taking action when necessary.
After a comfortable night in our luxurious suite, we were woken by Simon who has become an amazingly competent barista. The kitchen has an awesome coffee maker and the Illy beans are provided. Lauren and Allan joined us for our morning beverage and the cat came to visit too.
We all had the use of these luxurious robesKitty snuggled in contentedly
Breakfast was served at the bistro and we managed to get everyone there on time. Our hostess, Cathy along with the two chefs, John and Victor were super friendly and accommodating. Before we put in our egg order we were treated to fresh fruit salad with Greek or vanilla yogurt. We all had variations on scrambled eggs and the table was laden with croissants and pastries. Everybody raved about the fresh-pressed fruit juice too.
After breakfast, Simon and Allan went to fetch Shannon from Stellenbosch while Grandpa, Lauren, Josh, Lisa and I visited the Babylonstoren Gardens. Laurie and Jay decided to chill at the lodge.
It was a very warm day and as it is still school holidays there were lots of visitors around. My kids are all animal mad so when they saw the donkeys they headed straight over to pet them.
Fortunately, most of the paths were shady and all the routes were beautiful. It was amazing to see so many different varieties of clivia. The clivia walk was by far the best.
A Cape Canary cooling off in the streamStill a little boy at heart – Josh had to climb a treeResting in the shadeA wonderful experienceBabylonstoren now ticked off Lauren’s Bucket ListThe Cape White-eye enjoying the garden too
Allan really had every minute of my day organised. His attention to detail was amazing. After the garden visit, we went to La Bri for wine and chocolate tasting.
Entering La BriOur awesome sommelier – Julian
My wine of choice is sauvignon blanc so I left my comfort zone and instead choose to taste red. The menu had an interesting selection of red wines with chocolate pairings. And it was awesome. Our amazing sommelier knew her stuff and it was just such a wonderful experience to hear what she had to say and to enjoy the combination of tastes.
We also ordered a cheese and biltong platter for the table which was meant for two but was plenty for the five of us.
Lollz also chose the wine/chocolate pairing
On our way back to the lodge Shan, Si and I hopped off to explore the market. The rest of the family joined us half an hour later and we all went to the Huguenot Chocolate Shop.
Franschoek is famous for its marketAt the Chocolate Shop – It was beyond awesome (Yes we bought our lots)But love is good tooThis is so true
Franschoek is where the refugee Huguenots settled in the Seventeenth Century. Jay and Joshua’s dad told them that there are Huguenots in their ancestry so we had to take a photo.
The fun was not over yet. We all set off to Chamonix for dinner at their restaurant Arkeste.
The Restaurant overlooks the forestView from our table
This was really the cherry on top of my surprise. The service at this restaurant is amazing and the chef came to chat to us too.
You can see how blown away I amThe starter – a selection of sushi delights
The chef explained all the specials to us and Allan and Earl chose the lamb which measured up to their high expectations.
My main was Duck – What a treat!Allan and sister-in-law LisaAllan and sister-in-law Laurie
The chef pre-warned me not to order dessert as he had something special for me.
I got all four desserts in mini-portions! They were all delicious but the milk tart ice cream was the best.Lisa really loves her dessertTaste mine, Mom.
It was just the most awesome evening with excellent wine, wonderful food and all my favourite people around me. Who could ask for a better birthday celebration?
The Moon shone upon us too
Sunday 9 October 2022
Finally, the weekend was over. Once again we were treated to a wonderful breakfast before we left. Today’s breakfast was poached eggs on a mushroom with smoked ham and a hollandaise sauce drizzled on top. It was to die for.
Happy Family enjoying breakfastAll ten of us – Lisa, Lauren, Simon, Josh, Shannon, Allan, Laurie, Me, Earl, Jay
I feel so privileged that my son-in-law orchestrated this whole weekend for me. I enjoyed every second of it and I am blown away by the excellent organization and especially the love that went into it all. Thank you to all my family but most especially to Allan. I love you all so much.
On Thursday my darling husband announced that he was taking me away to an unknown destination. “It’s a surprise,” he said. And refused to give me any further details. Now he has done this before but not for a long time as he usually relies on me to do the bookings. All I knew was that we would not be taking the caravan so I suspected it would be to a Spa where a bit of pampering would be involved. He likes that sort of thing as do I.
Friday 7 October 2022
The morning was cool but looked like it might warm up so I dressed in white jeans and a cool blouse topped with a cardigan. We did not go in the direction I suspected. In fact, when we were headed toward Cape Town I wondered whether the airport might be involved. But no, I doubted he would book flights without my input. We usually stop Peregrine for coffee when we travel that way but today’s stop was a little before that at Dassiesfontein.
Soon after that we turned toward Villiersdorp and Worcester. Aha somewhere in the Winelands then! The drive was beautiful. The sun came out, the temperature rose and spring flowers were growing on the mountainside. Theewaterskloof was full and it was just the most scenic drive ever.
TheewaterskloofView over the Franschhoek ValleyBaboons Feasting on sour figs
When we got to Franschoek, the Earl drove down a long dirt road. “Now what?” I asked. “Where are we going?” He answered that we were going to Glenwood Wine Estate for lunch. “You know who the manager is,” he said. “DP – I want to see his farm!” Yes, indeed I did. DP is a fishing friend who visits Struisbaai often.
What lovely proteas at the entrance
Ah so we were stopping at a lovely restaurant for lunch. What a lovely hubby I have! But then – as I climbed out of the car and approached the steps up to the restaurant some familiar people appeared! What the heck?! Lisa? followed by my entire offspring and theirs! But why?
“Happy Early 70th!” said Lauren.
My birthday is in November when the students of the family are busy with exams. We are all scattered so getting us all together for a weekend would be a mission! So this was part one of the BIG SURPRISE. Shannon, our granddaughter cut her visit to her boyfriend in Bloemfontein short and flew in to join us. Two of her friends who are students at Stellenbosch university collected her from the airport and brought her to the venue. After lunch Shan went back to Stellenbosch with her friends but would return the next morning for the rest of our festivities.
Lunch was to die for. We had a choice of miso soup, smoke salmon salad or calamari for starters followed by some sushi platters for the table.
Calamari tenticle starterSmoked Salmon Salad StarterSushi is a family favourite so this went down very well! “Well, this was unexpected – thank you everyone”Grandpa and Shan
The mastermind behind this was my amazing son-in-law, Allan. He rallied the troops and organised every last tiny detail which as you will see as I continue this blog was not only lunch at Glenwood!
After lunch, Lauren whisked me away and said, “The fun is not over yet – Allan has organised a Mom and Daughter massage for us.” Oh wow – an hour of pure bliss.
Only after this wonderful spoil did we join everyone at Fransvliet, the lodge where we were to spend the weekend. Lauren and Allan and Earl and I had the main cottage each with its own double room and ensuite bathroom. The open-plan living area was big enough for us all together and the kitchenette was fully equipped but as we soon found out we would not be cooking at home! The rest of the family shared three one bed-roomed cottages which were just as luxurious. These cottages are set in the most beautiful garden.
The gardenRelaxing before the next treat
The outdoor area is awesome and has its own plunge pool.
The weather was so good we could have lounged next to the pool all day weekend long. But there were things to do and places to go!
Another big surprise was finding an iced carrot cake with my name on it! The boys insisted on posing with me and the cake.
My three grandsons – Jay 25, Josh 24. Simon 17The Man who planned it allMy girls and me – Laurie, Me, Lisa, Lauren
At five we all set off for sundowners and a snack supper at Anemos Deck, Old Road Winery. The views of the mountains were sensational and we thoroughly enjoyed watching the Wine Tram pass by. Click on the link to find out what a great experience you can have by taking this tram when you visit the Winelands – You won’t need to drink and drive! We, of course, did quite a bit of wine tasting but we made sure we had a designated driver with us.
Pizzas were goodThe Wine TramAllan, Simon, Lisa, Lauren, Laurie, Jay, Earl, me with the awesome view in the background.
How awesome was Day One? Never in a million years would I have expected a surprise quite like this. And yet that was not the end! Dear Allan had more up his sleeve for the following day. Watch this space for more.
Favourite horror or Halloween-themed song? Or a song you rarely hear except around a holiday.
The only one that comes to mind is Time Warp from “The Rocky Horror Picture Show”
Do you ever see figures in your peripheral vision?
Yes, I do. It is a very creepy, huge, black insect. I try to swat it but it is too quick for me. It usually appears first thing in the morning when I am waking up or when I get really tired during the day. The experts tell me it’s called a floater and is quite harmless. It won’t bite or sting, they say. So why, then, does the annoying creature hang around my right eye!
Which urban legend scares you the most? (most countries have such stories – share yours if you would like to) 🦇
The African tribes of South Africa are very wary of The Tokoloshe, an evil spirit who gets up to all sorts of mischief. He is a small goblin-like creature and he becomes invisible when he drinks water or swallows a stone. Witch doctors or even ordinary people will call upon the Tokoloshe to bring harm to their enemies. Parents might also get their children to behave by warning them that the Tokoloshe will punish them if they don’t. According to the legend, the way to keep the Tokoloshe at bay is to place bricks under each leg of the bed. He is very short so prefers people to sleep at floor level where he can get them!
The Tokoloshe
You’re home alone but you hear footsteps in your house, what do you do?
We have good security so hopefully, hearing footsteps would be my imagination or the resident ghost that is rumoured to reside in my house. More than one person has alerted me to the fact that they have had paranormal experiences in my home. When my daughter was about twelve, she and her cousin of the same age were alone in the house and said they heard the door rattling. When they went to check they could not turn the door handle nor could they actually see anybody but they insist it was a ghost. Another visitor reported seeing an old woman in the room in which she slept. (Perhaps it was mother-in-law who died in this house!) We, however, have never experienced anything paranormal here.
So what would I do if I heard footsteps? I would lie perfectly still and pretend to be asleep. It would be dangerous to confront a burglar and scary to confront a ghost!
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What is your favourite season?
I love Autumn/Fall. The weather is cooler but the days are sunny and still. I also love the colours. In the Western Cape, we call it the Secret Season because the weather is so perfect during March and April. There might be a few cold days but mostly it’s the best time for people from abroad to visit.